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That's Right, We've Moved!

2009-04-25T18:45:00.000-07:00

One last post to let everyone know about the new site. Please follow to The New Blogged Word!

Thanks.

939 - A New Year and a New Perspective

2009-01-04T10:35:00.000-08:00

Historically, a new year brings resolutions, new ambitions and the usual "fresh start." However, in a longer time horizon view like the Retirement Countdown, the new perspectives are simply constantly evolving versions.

For example, family.

With the loss of an uncle recently (actually a cousin once removed, but more like an uncle than a cousin), it gave me cause to consider that our time here is finite. At the risk of getting too focused on our own mortality, it is important to remember that our world won't stay the same forever. As fast-paced as that world around us operates, it's easy to lose sight of that fact. Don't squander time with family. Enjoy that time like it won't last forever - because it won't.

This is true for work as well. Now, I'd be the first to admit that at this point of my career (hey, after all, I'm writing a blog about counting down to retirement!), I am not going to frantically try to climb the corporate ladder. But what I will admit is a realization that although in previous posts, I've landed my dream job, this is a great reminder that I can work smarter (and maybe just a bit harder!)

The next position may or may not ever materialize. However, the passing of a dear family member has reminded me that time, too, passes. I intend to use it wisely - with family and to capture any possible professional opportunities that may exist for me.

The Shower Transformation

2009-01-03T07:35:00.000-08:00

Last, but not least. In fact, in spite of the shower having the least of the structural transformation, it has garnered most of the photos. Here are five that capture the essence of the change.

The shower seemed to have the most discreet steps. Not in the sense of dragging down the rest of the project, but rather, the complexity of what needed to be accomplished. Recall the significant effort to build the shower pan. Many steps were involved from here:

To here:

Then, the tile. Cutting, fitting, placing the spacers, realigning, grouting... It seemed as if it wouldn't end.
But end it did - and in a glorious way! The shower door was like icing on the cake.

The Bathroom Remodel has been a great project. Made possible by significant planning (with proper adjustments), careful decision making, a persnickety contractor, and a TON OF LUCK!

Thank you for following along. Check back often for new topics and more focus on existing ones. Who knows, maybe another remodeling project might be in our future!

The Vanity Transformation

2009-01-02T12:42:00.000-08:00

While new tile and granite are an exciting aspect of this project, it is the vanity that actually incurred the most change. Recall that the previous owner had the original second sink removed in favor of this drop-top vanity area. Bad news: we needed to change that. Good news, the plumbing was already in the wall!

Of course, demolition played a significant part of the change - as it did for the rest of the room. Here, the old sink was removed along with the entire countertop to make room for the additional cabinet and sink.

Once the new cabinet and base for the countertop were added, the overall structure was ready for the true transformation.

Granite countertop and backslash! Notice the pre-cut areas. Not much room for error. Everything had to be exact (or at least damn close!) for it all to come together.

Note the power outlet on the backsplash. In the original photo, it appears lower and more to the right. Through a clever bit of engineering, Tom moved it to the left and up to gain adequate clearance from the sink. Clever, you ask? How it that clever?

Well, there was a triple-thickness set of 2x4 studs in the way and not much slack in the electrical wire with which to work. He cut a shallow channel through the studs, keeping their structural integrity, allowing the outlet to be mounted on the other side. Then, to prevent any sheetrock nails from becoming rude with the wire, he attached a steel plate across the channel to protect them. No expensive wiring changes, no damage, no danger, no hits, no runs, no errors. Sorry. Couldn't resist.

At Last!

2008-12-13T11:01:00.000-08:00

In Etta James' song, At Last she uses a phrase that, with some license, works for us at the completion of this project. She sings, "A dream that I can call my own." For us, it's simply the plural variant indicating "our" dream.

In these next few posts, I'll show a sequence of various views, providing some indication of the transformation that has just taken place. The final product is wonderful, but it is the transformation that has impressed and given us the daily "wow" factor.

As we went from what was quite familiar, to demolition, and then to the rebuilding, the dream truly was coming into view.

As the finished product started to come into view, the excitement grew for two reasons. One, for sure, was that we were to get our bathroom, a new and improved version, back. But secondly, to see just how close the final product would match "our dream."

It is hard to believe it is the same space. A second sink, more usable cabinet space, a larger shower and considerably upgraded surroundings - all in the same footprint. An efficient project, based on the early La La Land expectations we held at the beginning. Money well spent, for an appropriate level of benefit. A combination of reality and choosing the right contractor.

Early indications: we have a winner!

Close, But No Cigar!

2008-11-24T20:18:00.000-08:00

Today was supposed to be the shower door installation day. Nope. Installer had a family illness, so we're still on hold. Sorry for the delay, but the wait will be worthwhile.

Thanks.

Starbucks at Gresham Safeway

2008-11-23T10:30:00.000-08:00

It's often said that it's one thing that brings you in to a merchant, but it is something else (sometimes many things) that keeps you coming back.

I'm a frequent flier, so I have the affinity program gene. If I can get points or some sort of credit for a purchase, I will. Tying my United Airlines Mileage Plus program to my Safeway Club Card made a lot of sense to maximize the benefits of my daily Starbucks fix. Sure, Starbucks has their own program now, but I don't want to pay $25 per year for a Starbucks Gold Card. So, Safeway it is.

If my need for "loyal customer" points brought me in (way back when), it is the service that keeps me coming back. Two stories are needed to explain why. First, Jalyssa.

When my wife Margaret noticed a particular mug style being sold on the retail shelves, and we did not snatch them up at the time, Jalyssa came to the rescue. When we finally decided to buy them, they were of course, gone. On one of my regular morning visits, I asked if they had any "in the back." Nope. Jalyssa and I kept our eyes peeled for new ones if they came in. Very much like Costco - you just never know what comes through the retail channel.

After some time passed, Jalyssa took it upon herself to shop the Sandy, OR store and found them! Not only did she find them, she bought them with her own money. My next morning visit found Jalyssa handing over the prize. Not only did I reimburse her, but I crafted a letter to Starbucks letting them know the "over the top" service received.

There are two ways in which I appreciate and respond to service. One is in going far above and beyond basic responsibilities. The other is the day in and day out, steady, trusted, and now anticipated "attitude." Most times, "attitude" is connoted negatively. Here, "attitude" is a sense of pleasant demeanor, compentence and energy. Enter Angela.

When Angela arrived some time ago, I could tell she was different than the rest of the people who are sometimes there for only a short time. (You either get it or you don't.) She got it. Soon, she was training others. Then, she became the assistant manager.

When you take care of customers - and train your employees to do the same - a culture of customer appreciation - and appreciative customers - develops. Sure, there isn't the Starbucks "ambiance" there that comes with a regular store with couches, chairs and cool music, but my Safeway Starbucks has all the comfort that should come with a $3.00+ cup of coffee. Angela simply packages it differently.

End of the End (Almost)

2008-11-22T19:08:00.000-08:00

This marks the end of the "construction" photos. The final bits of touch-up and details.

Here's a first and only look at the windows above the mirror. Simply a good opportunity to touch up some trim that was in marginal shape.

A final look at that backsplash area that had some challenges, solved by artistic sheetrock mud, texturing and paint. You'd never know.

Standing in the tub (something I don't often do,) this shows a variety of details: caulking around backsplash, trim tile on tub against cabinet, accent tiles around tub deck and a placed, sealed and plumbed sink.

I'll leave you with a tease for the rest of the cabinets. The drawers are in, but the doors are next on the agenda. This is a great shot of an audible we had to call midway through. Notice the new cabinet/sink on the right: no vertical piece. Existing cabinet on the left: yes vertical piece. In the nine plus years since our home was built, they changed the cabinet style. Sure, same manufacturer since we were able to contact the developer and ask for some information. But a different style.

Solution: new doors on each side so they match. Previously, the left side (originally, the only cabinet) had doors that came together with about a 1/2 inch space. No problem, since there is the vertical piece. The doors on the new cabinet close up tight to one another, since there is no vertical piece. The new doors on the old cabinet now close like the new ones on the right. No one knows except us (and you of course!), unless both sets of doors are opened simultaneously.

If you're tired of the left/right/left/right description above, I apologize for the tennis match play by play.

The last posts coming next will finish out this project with a final, "pre-shower door" view and then a tour of our new master bathroom.

983 - Changing Professional Perspectives

2008-11-21T19:22:00.000-08:00

My Retirement Countdown continues to be a transformational, professional journey. When the countdown started, I was in an environment of hard work, positioning for that next promotion, seeking and taking advantage of opportunities - the typical professional ladder climbing attitude.

Then, in 1588, I talked about landing my dream position. While the hard work part is still a daily part of my life, the posturing for that next position (at least for now since I love what I do) isn't quite as important. In case my boss reads this, I of course would entertain any opportunity to grow - it's just not a high priority right now.

But professional perspectives can change for many reasons.

Many of you know son Jake has been a producer for Good Day Oregon at KPTV Fox 12. Recently, he was asked to help initiate the new 8:00 PM news program on sister station, PDXTV. Having your son sought after for a specific position is pretty cool. But the suspender snapper for me was when he told us he is now the producer for Fox 12's 10 O'Clock News. This is a significant show of faith in his abilities and we are very proud.

My reason for the story is not to brag about my kid (well, maybe just a little), but instead to make a point. As parents, we all take pride in our children's accomplishments in school, but we keep focusing on our own careers and that next jump on the ladder. However, when our children's accomplishments begin to take place in their "profession," well... it has altered my professional perspective forever. A leap-frogging of importance has just taken place.

Yes, the rest of my career is still very, very important to me. But, it pales in comparison to the importance (and remember: PRIDE!) I now feel for the accomplishments he is enjoying in his profession.

Middle of the End

2008-11-21T19:06:00.000-08:00

Trim, paint and hardward make a world of difference. First, tiles were cut into strips to make the edge trim. Then, a small square piece was cut at an angle across one corner. Finally, paint pulled it all together.

These final touches are subtle, but oh so defining. They mark the migration from work to play.

Remember the niche? It took vision, design, engineering, testing, manufacturing, and even finish detailing. Sounds like we're building a truck, doesn't it? After all that work, it is the wash cloth rod that makes me smile. I have successfully avoided Margaret's repeated suggestions to ditch the messy wash cloth in favor of her poofy scrubber thing. Nope.

Not many steps remain. Baseboards, tub faucet, final paint touch-up. When those are complete, the shower door goes in. We're almost there.

Beginning of the End

2008-11-20T20:03:00.000-08:00

For weeks, we've been excited about the buzz of activity around here. Prior to that, it was all about the hunt; the hunt to find the right person to transform our space; the hunt for the right materials; the hunt for the right accessories. That hunt was successful, (the end of the beginning!), we got our buzz, and now beginning to see the end of the process. Bitter/sweet. It has not been torture, but rather a slight inconvenience at the bottom end, and intensely satisfying and rewarding at the top end.

As this post's title suggests, there won't be too many blog posts remaining. A few more to wrap up the construction, then one with the shower door installed, and finally - the completed look. I may throw a few "transformational" photo sequences in there for good measure. I so enjoyed "Fun With Before and After" that it might be interesting to devote a few posts to before/during/after shots.

You've probably noticed that I'm halfway through this post and I haven't mentioned any of these photos yet. That's because we've arrived at a point where there's not much "action." A quick point about the base pieces installed on the cabinets' kick plates: each small finishing touch adds a great deal, but yes, not much else is happening. The grout's down and we're waiting for it to cure so the sealer can be installed. Just like a dog who can't quite get to his bone...

The hinges sitting on the tub deck above play into the final picture, so don't go to sleep on me quite yet. Remember the access hatch cut into the tub deck frame?

Well, we now have a beautiful new Lucent Blue door! Don't you love the color? Right. It's all the rage just like the grout treatment previously. Of course not. Simply a protective coating. But we now have a matching cabinet door (really, it's white!), newly engineered to allow easy access to the valves. Look closely, and you'll see the same old handles, one installed backward, waiting for the new set. Stay tuned.

It's been an amazing transformation, but the best is yet to come.

Molly Lee Cards

2008-11-19T20:18:00.000-08:00

If you ever have the need for the most unique, personally designed cards for a special occasion, this is the only place to go. Molly Lee sells interactive cards on her Etsy site, which is a cornucopia of handmade items.

When we moved to our new home, Molly designed a housewarming card that had all the look and feel of a moving box. Complete with a packing tape seal, when opened, the envelope unfolded like the top of a box. Removing the invitation was like unpacking. I can't tell you how much fun we had sending them - and how many enjoyable comments we received from guests. I only wish I'd kept a sample for myself.

Creativity, talent and oh, yeah - customer service! For all occasions that need that special flair, I'm simply going to give her the theme and let her create the perfect piece!

Grout Everywhere!

2008-11-19T19:28:00.000-08:00

Wow! Isn't this great? Tom says this effect is all the rage! Ahh... no. Grout is a bit of a messy animal. Fortunately, for people who know how to work with it, it sure cleans up nice. What's the adage? Something about breaking some eggs to make an omelet?

It is amazing just how much of a difference some well-placed goo makes when the right color is selected and applied by someone with skill.

The best way to see the impact of the grout in any of these photos is to click on a picture and see a zoomed version. The detail is impressive. You should see it in person. For those of you who can, you have an open invitation.

From a distance (these photos), not a lot seems to change on a daily basis. I have to admit, I've been challenged trying to select photos that show some progress. Progress is taking place each day - a significant amount - but without being up close, it's hard to see the details (click to zoom.)

Here's one that comes with an apology. Sorry, Tom. I couldn't resist capturing a shot of the guy who's making this transformation take place. Thanks, Captain Grout!

Fun With Before and After

2008-11-18T19:21:00.001-08:00

It's not clear if Dick and Jane would have fun with this, but I think this is fascinating. No, not the fact that I figured out how to use the MACRO setting on my camera, but that the grout makes such a dramatic difference in the project.

In the before state, the tiles are aligned, affixed and admired:

In the after, they are surfaced, smoothed and sensational!

Next is a more completed look at the furnace vent. In Turning the Corner with Tile, I stressed the importance of tile placement planning to ensure all the right edges were in all the right places. In that post, it was a picture of a roughed-in opening for the vent template without even a tile set in place. Here, you can see the tile carefully cut to accommodate the template.

But wait, there's more! Notice the individual pieces cut to fit across the vent. Again, plenty of art on Tom's part to go with the science.

And here is the final piece, grouted and looking as if it was easy. The mark of a craftsman.

With the grout down, the remaining work is to pull all the remaining puzzle pieces together. We are beginning to accelerate to the finish. Even Dick and Jane would have fun.

Sanks for zee Sinks

2008-11-17T10:41:00.001-08:00

This was one of the many defining moments for this project. Going from a cutout to having the sinks and faucets installed, all in one day, was a thrill. We were a bit nervous anticipating how our "square sink" selection was going to work, but I'm thinking we make a good choice.

No, the Bosch Power Box is not part of our design, but I now want one. Once connected to power, it provides a good sounding radio and CD, extra outlets, and probably a lot more gadgets than what I've been able to discover from snooping.

Ah, the square sink. Since it is a bit larger than we anticipated, there is not much clearance between the back of the sink and the backsplash. Fortunately, it fit just fine - just closer than we envisioned.

And a final look at how it seats to the granite.

This confirms the end of the project is indeed in sight. More to go, but grateful for where we are today.

The Devil is in the Details

2008-11-16T20:06:00.000-08:00

Details.

The visible part of any project, as opposed to the underlying structure, is what gives it the excitement. Of course in a construction project, the strength and quality of the unseen structure (the bacon) is equally as important, but it is what you see (the sizzle) that seems to matter. The sizzle has indeed begun.

The tub has been getting considerable attention due to it's own special needs. A new access door, a lot of trim work, and a completely new valve set. (Hence the need for an access door.) Notice again the screwy handles, one of which is installed backward. The tub has it's own set of details that is making it sizzle. Below, you see more of the artistic work to feather the sheetrock mud out to meet the tile. Yes, another wall that wasn't... well... perfect... when it was built.

But perfection is in sight.

Next, is a nice "during and after" shot. In "But Wait, Don't Take the Counter for Granite," (I just love that pun), I showed the "before" shot showing a gap from a straight piece of granite to a not-so-straight piece of wall. Here, the sheetrock mud has been built up to meet the granite and feathered widely to that any sort of slope is imperceptible.

Next, you can see how it looks with the wall textured, painted, and caulked. Sizzle that supports the bacon.

At this stage of the project, there is a lot happening - quickly. There may be more opportunities to show a progression of photos. The before, during and after perspectives should be a lot of fun and will be a great way to see how it is all coming together.

989 - Last in a Series

2008-11-15T07:24:00.000-08:00

With 989 days to go, it is still somewhat premature to begin looking at the last day of work, or the last annual review, or any sort of final events. However, it has occurred to me that I am today experiencing a "last" before a certain retirement - from the school board.

As a school board member for 8 years (currently in the last year of my second, four-year elected term and have chosen not to run again), I have participated in many professional development opportunities related to public education. This week-end is the Oregon School Boards Association annual convention. School boards and education service districts from around the state get together annually to learn about trends in education, hear about best practices in a variety of areas and forge colleagial bonds with fellow board members from across Oregon.

And this is my last one.

This is somewhat sobering in that it is an example of many "lasts" I'll be experiencing as I get closer to retirement. Some lasts will be a relief, but most will be a need for a reluctant good bye. This week-end has put me on notice that it is time to celebrate areas of life as if they will be the last time to enjoy them. Not meaning to sound morbid, but isn't that how we should enjoy life anyway?

Nameless Contractors No More

2008-11-13T18:59:00.000-08:00

It has occurred to me that through this entire project, I have consistently called Tom and Jeff our "contractors" in my blog postings. Maybe subconsciously, I didn't want the world to know that I had screwed up on my choice, in the event they didn't work out. Boy, that couldn't be any farther from the truth.

As I'm sure you've read by now, we've been extremely pleased with our choice. Not just because of the early firings of the other candidates, but the consistent manner in which Tom and Jeff have added to our confidence through open communication and thoughtful actions. You've already read about that - no need to go into it further. The point is that in this particular case, there wasn't any screw up on my part. Collette, this is for you: "No reading on the Bozometer Scale!"

It is high time these guys get a name and not just a title. They have already had conversations with some friends in the neighborhood, but I can't resist promoting their work further. I'm tagging this in Memorable Merchants since they more than qualify. In Memorable Merchants, I generally write a bit about why I'm pleased, but you know where you can find those comments. If you are considering any sort of work around your home, do yourself a favor and call Tom at 360.772.1540. Don't risk a reading on the Bozometer Scale.

Jig-Saw Puzzle: Do You Start Around the Edges?

2008-11-12T18:07:00.000-08:00

In the very first Bathroom Remodel post, "Welcome to the Bathroom Remodel," I cited a line from Alice and Wonderland. "Start at the beginning... and when you come to the end, STOP."

The shower pan calls for a slightly different strategy. Starting a jig-saw puzzle around the edge is as universal as dunking an Oreo. OK, for you connoisseurs out there, I'll mention twisting it and eating the middle. But I digress. Instead of stopping at the end, I think we'll stop at the middle.

Here, planning is what it's all about. Pencil lines and initial tile cuts give some dimension.

Then, continuing to piece together the ultimate puzzle causes the final image to begin to come through.

There are two other items that merit a mention. First, never underestimate the value of blue painter's tape. It is inexpensive, can be removed easily and does a great job of holding tile in place long enough to allow the mud to set.

Secondly, here's a look at the trim pieces, cut from full tiles. The edges are rounded in the familiar bull nose manner, giving them a very nice finished appearance.

In the spirit of full disclosure, many of the trim pieces are additional pieces of tile our contractor had to "acquire." You see, we ran out. And when we checked with the supplier, the source had run out. In our contractor's defense, it was I who guesstimated the amount we would need when measuring to finalize the order. Rookie error: I didn't plan for the extra tiles needed due to the waste that comes with the diamond pattern in the shower.

Pulling in markers is another art. Our contractor went to one of his regular suppliers and not only got a few pieces that were plenty close enough in color and pattern, but he (we) didn't have to pay for them. They just comp'd him. It gets better: one of the pieces was ripped from a sample display board. I just wish I could claim this as a strategic move to keep our costs down. I know: Bravo-Sierra.

But Wait, Don't Take the Counter for Granite!

2008-11-11T19:50:00.001-08:00

OK, so I took a bit of license with that one, but we can't take the granite for granted. With all the focus on the tile, and all the beauty it has been holding, the granite is like the frosting.

Backsplash is in and the sinks are ready to be cut out. (Yes, my challenging and inconsistent lighting is still with us.) Look carefully at the differences in thickness between where the sink will be cut out and the bull nose edge.

To provide the appearance of a thicker piece of granite, the front edge is rounded and then a small piece is laminated on the underside. Don't ask me! It must be magic glue, special cutting, voodoo - I have no idea how they do it. The slab is plenty stout at the actual thickness, but this effect gives the appearance of a much thicker piece. I call it "visual value."

The photos above and below are great examples of how the finish work will bring it all together. Above, this is another example of existing walls not being what you could call plumb and set at 90 degrees. Notice the gap between the countertop and backsplash edges and that of the wall. The pieces were cut exactly 90 degrees, but the wall didn't want to cooperate.

My late father was a carpenter and his forte was finish work. The part you see, and in particular, the part you see that ties pieces together, is what makes or breaks a project.

The great equalizers: sheetrock mud, a can of texture and an artistic eye. More on those later.

The Tile-Saw Puzzle Begins!

2008-11-10T19:11:00.000-08:00

If you've ever worked a jig-saw puzzle, you know that the pieces must be placed together exactly so to create your masterpiece. Here, the artisans are using a tile saw (not elegant, but very cool), to create the intricate and precise pieces that are causing this puzzle to take shape.

In Turning the Corner with Tile, I hinted at the cascading effect of moving one piece. Look closely below at the precision needed to keep all lines straight. There's the tile spacers, the sticks of wood acting as braces up and down the edge, and there's even that little red shim used to get the spacing exact. Now think about doing that on a vertical surface, with adhesive mud backing the tile, with many sizes and shapes -- and -- not offering four letter words in front of the homeowner. Very impressive.

Our niche is one of the more interesting creations. Since we couldn't find the style and size we wanted in a prefabricated unit, we decided to design our own. (With our contractors' help, naturally.) Remember, this is the place for shampoo and other bottles, a soap dish and a wash cloth (when the bar is installed.)

But the most intricate of the entire process will be the floor. It's not vertical, but it does hold four unique planes, draining to the center, that must have lines, slopes and patterns align perfectly. Not for me... Check Please!

One more level of detail that might seem insignificant, but is equally as important: keeping track of the baseboard trim pieces so they can be touched up and reinstalled. By replacing only those pieces that can not (and should not) be repaired, we are saving considerable money. The final product will look just as good - but without buying, prepping, and painting a fairly detailed molding.

I've always said that when a final product looks flawless on the surface, it's a signal that considerable planning and execution went into it. We're seeing that unfold daily with a great deal of detail work being invested that is beginning to hint at what I expect to be a very spectacular finished puzzle.

The Shower as a Continuing Science/Art Project

2008-11-09T19:13:00.000-08:00

Tile may have been the corner-turner in the last post, but it is the shower stall that will be the jigsaw puzzle. How hard can it be to put tile down on a big, flat floor? (Remember, if it was easy, I'd be doing it!) The shower is a complex space with slopes and multiple surfaces that must all work together.

The first step of course, is to get it covered up. With the sheetrock on the walls, it is beginning to take shape. The niche has been defined and the increased depth is beginning to become obvious.

From this angle, the two thicknesses of 2x4s is clearly shown. Previously, the wall went just to the edge of the painted area. It doesn't seem like much, but it will be a great enhancement.

Oh, yeah. The toilet is still in the garage...

The shower will continue to be the focal point for several more days. Plan, measure, cut, fit, adjust, glue, adjust again... you get the idea. Art or science? It's anybody's guess!

995 - A Significant Move into a"3-digit" World

2008-11-09T11:27:00.000-08:00

This whole Retirement Countdown exercise has been an interesting look into the path leading to what I call Career 2.0 and all that that implies. The countdown to something called retirement is truly a journey and not a destination. The 2.0 part of this simply indicates the expectation of the next chapter - whatever that will be and whenever it will happen. Until now, it has been somewhat virtual - a journey starting at 2185 days away - much too far to seem very real.

That seems to be changing with a 3-digit countdown.

995 days seems like a significantly shorter time than the 1038 of the last post on the topic, but it is just more than one month difference. By focusing more on the Bathroom Remodel recently, I've lost a bit of perspective toward the countdown. 995 is causing a sobering realization that time seems to be accelerating. Even a short period of taking my eye off the ball can cause a dramatic fielding error.

So what does that mean? Initially, it means, "pay attention!" The pace at which life is moving and as it continues to accelerate means that nothing is to be taken for granted. Be present. Enjoy each and every moment. There are only a finite number of them, and there isn't a second chance. It's ironic that in 1123 - A Dubious Milestone, I reflect more on healthy habits than on appreciating the present. Each one is important, but an oversight for sure. I'm just grateful that a silly retirement countdown exercise reminded me to smell those roses.

But beyond that, I'm finding that I don't sweat some of the small things that I used to fret over. In other situations, I'm more passionate and defensive about issues than I ever used to be. As stimuli change, I suspect, so do perspectives.

995 has performed better than any hotel wake-up call could. It has caused me to awaken in ways I've never previously experienced, but more importantly, it has caused me to pay closer attention to frame after individual frame of life's movie - one for which there is no sequel.

Professional Towing

2008-11-09T07:25:00.000-08:00

When thinking of automotive towing services, the word "professional" doesn't always come. In this case, it's more than the company's name, it is the best word to describe them.

Cars can from time to time get sick and shouldn't be driven to have them repaired. It's never a good time when the unexpected happens, so you simply deal with it and move on.

After making a couple of calls from a random internet search, I was quickly thinking that I would have to wait up to 2 hours and deal with a company that just didn't sound like they cared about booking my business. Thankfully, I made one more call.

When I reached a professional voice at the other end, who seemed to care by asking the reason for the tow, then empathized with the situation - and - could get there in 30-45 minutes, I was in. Rich at "Pro Tow" is the new owner, buying the business from the long-time, previous owner. Customer care: he gets it.

A truck was dispatched and he said the driver would call me back when he was in the area. One better: Rich called back personally when the truck was about "a minute and a half" away. Sure enough, 90 seconds later, here comes the truck.

Eric was the driver and quite a character. Careful, quick, and a lot of fun to be around. I rode with him and had a good time talking about "big trucks."

If you need a tow, don't bother shopping. Look to Pro Tow for professional treatment and at much more of a reasonable rate than I anticpated.

Turning the Corner with Tile

2008-11-08T13:26:00.001-08:00

In any sort of project, there comes a point at which the final outcome starts to be visible. While there is still much to do, having the tile down on the floor helps a visually oriented person like me really begin to see how it might look when finished.

Notice the access door under the tub. A new feature. In the very first post, "Welcome to the Bathroom Remodel!," I showed a photo of the tub faucet and one of the valves installed backward. Since this access door did not exist before, the faucet must have been installed and then the tub framing fully enclosed. There's no other way to get to the faucet. Again, some of the things that are discovered when exposing previous construction techniques.

The plan is to mount a matching cabinet door over the opening to provide access to the plumbing. Something that should have been incorporated before.

It is indeed beginning to take shape.

I love this next shot. This is a great example of the tile detail, but it also is a glimpse into the care that our contractors are taking with the tile installation. It's all about straight lines. The spacer clips provide for consistent spacing, but think about the dozens and dozens of tiles that make up the complete "system." If one is moved to line it up with the one next to it on one side, it can affect the one on the other side. And so on, and so on, and so on... This is the heart of the art.

Here, science meets art head on. A significant decision had to be made before the first tile was put down: where would the pattern start? Some of the considerations were visial impact (see the top photo as it looks when entering the bathroom), where cuts would be needed around the perimeter, and of course, the furnace vent. Better to have a complete tile surround the vent than to have a break (and grout), dissect it.

This one tile will be the source of considerable work (relatively) due to the tile-friendly register that we've ordered. This isn't bad, just a fair amount of detail. Later, you'll see why the tile pattern needed to be just so. The register will incorporate the tile beautifully and in a very clever way.

Put it Down to Cover it Up

2008-11-07T15:37:00.000-08:00

When the framing is complete, the next step is somewhat ironic: put material in place so that it can be hidden. Here, a waterproof underlament was put down on the floor, replacing the previous surface. This product is made of gypsum and cellulose and are very strong.

Remember: put it down to cover it up. Here, you can see the underlament as well as the base for what will eventually be the granite countertop. Same deal.

Reality check: stuff happens. When demolition takes place, large pieces of construction debris are uninstalled and then removed. When things are glued, nailed and screwed into place when installed, they don't come out without a fight. Dings and holes are inevitable. This is nothing since these guys are pros. A simple patch when the time is right and again, covered up!

Speaking of covered up, tarps have become a way of life. Being sure to put them in their path for protection from what seems like dozens of trips to the garage and their rigs (probably feels like hundreds to them) is another appreciated attitude. Care + Concern = Class.

The beauty of hiding these things is knowing what will be doing the hiding. Next up, TILE!

Gresham Shoe Repair

2008-11-03T20:09:00.000-08:00

At the risk of fragmenting my blog topics too far, I've decided to start a new one related to merchants who have provided me with outstanding service, a terrific bargain, or simply a satisfying experience. In a word: Memorable.

If you're anything like me, once you find that perfect place, you simply don't want to let go. In fact, you tell all your friends in hopes of more business pouring in, thereby ensuring a long, successful venture. But first a story. (You really didn't think you'd get away without one, did you?!?!?!)

Some time ago, I had become quite pleased with my shoe repair shopkeeper. Dress shoes (men's and women's) are not cheap. As a result, finding a good "carer and repairer" is critical to protecting that investment. I had found just that person. But one day, that changed.

On my next visit, there was someone new and with that new person came a whole change in the shop's persona. When asked, he simply said, "new owner." Nuff said. That's the bad news. I stayed away for quite a while, disappointed in the fact that my perfect shoe doctor had sold the shop and moved on. I found another shop, but at best, they were adequate (barely.)

One day, I had the need for new heel taps and decided Mr. "New Owner" couldn't screw things up and I could deal with him for a 10 minute maintenance stop. Now, the good news: he was back. It took me a minute to shift gears, but I finally asked him what had happened. Politely, he said that when payments aren't made, ownership reverts. I told him I was sorry it didn't work out, but that I was thrilled he was back.

Gresham has indeed regained a Memorable Merchant. Do yourself a favor: protect your leather investment. Do me a favor and contribute to a long, successful venture.

The Heart of Construction: Framing

2008-11-02T11:14:00.000-08:00

This is the point where the work is the most visible. Dramatic changes occur daily when structure, shape and dimensions change. The shower continues to evolve. First as a science experiment, now as a framing project.

The "niche" became a do it yourself strategy. There are products on the market that are premade and install between studs, but we couldn't find the exact design we wanted. So, we improvised. Notice the area framed with a ledge and a rod across it horizontally. This will become a recessed area for shampoo and other bottles, along with a place for a soap dish and a wash cloth. No more sitting on the step or sitting in a suction cup caddy.

Back to the science experiment for a minute: Notice the epoxy and resin treatment, the beginning of the shower pan. The next photo is a great look at the quartered plywood panels, each one sloping to the middle and the drain. This way, large tile sections can be used with additional cuts only on the corner creases.

This concept took me a while to envision. Each of the four sections are "flat" or more accurately, on their own plane. But at the same time, each plane slopes to the center. Now that I've seen it, "Duh!" But when described to me, I had a few question marks floating above my head.

You can begin to see the brilliance of this design. First the subfloor is prepped for the plywood shown, then the plywood "planes," then the fiberglass and resin on the floor and up the sides (all one surface), next will be a mud set as a base, then adhesive mud, tile, grout and sealer. Leak ever in my, yours, or your grandchild's lifetime? I think not!

Gaining shower depth is the best addition to this project. If you recall, when we were still in La La Land, we were intending to gain a considerably larger shower by removing the tub and relocating the spraying water. Recall again: financial reality. We saved considerably on the budget by leaving everything where it was, but we've gained in two ways in making the shower larger.

First, tile vs. shower enclosure.

The fiberglass shower enclosure was a design that was about two inches thick. Plus, it was significantly rounded in the corners, and had an overly large corner bench. By removing the enclosure and replacing it with tile that are approximately 1/2 inch thick, mounted on 1/2 inch waterproof sheetrock, we gained an inch wide and an inch deep. Not much you say? On a percentage increase basis, that is significant.

But there's more.

Thes two photos (above and below) show the two new studs attached to the existing wall, adding another 3 1/2 inches in depth. Yay for percentages! We came out as far as we could based on clearance next to the light switch on the wall (opposite end of shower.) Big band for the buck.

This close-up below is another example of what one finds when one opens up work done by previous builders. Notice the shims, or spacers, between and at the bottom of the framed studs. I know that looks like the outside 2x4 has become curved out, but it is actually done that way to make it plumb. It was the existing studs that weren't plumb. Now, the outside surface will be perfectly straight up and down.

Thsi shows just how far we were able to extend the shower depth. Notice the pencil line marking the distance. A significant increase in size, with only the cost of a couple of 2x4s and some eventual cosmetic finishing. Bargain!

At the run rate we're seeing from our contractors, framing will quickly turn into finishing. It's exciting to think that we're almost completely into the woods and ready to begin the journey out of them!

Gentlemen, Start Your Engines!

2008-10-30T21:23:00.001-07:00

The journey has begun! As you can see by the amount of tools, equipment, radios, and supplies, we are definitely not in Kansas any more.

We've quickly gone from orderly, tidy and almost boring demo to complete engagement. I'm not complaining, mind you. This is still contained and organized, but it has become a bit zany once all the activity came to life.

The shower seems to be a point of significant transformation. It is the most involved "tear out" in the room and is the source of what will be the primary crafting effort. As The Blogged Word's title bar suggests, blogging is as much art as it is science. The shower will encompass both.

First, the art.

When the tile eventually go on the walls, they will follow a diamond pattern, with each tile angled 45 degrees, with the points up, down, left, and right. Add to that a decorative trim of smaller 1 inch tiles around the walls at eye level and the placing of carefully cut tile pieces on the floor (pan) to follow the contour, and I expect to see the most challenging jigsaw puzzle around.

Now, the science.

The pan itself will be the science. Start with a bare floor, add the drain positioned in the center, install quartered plywood panels, sloped to the center drain, spray with a fiberglass and resin cocktail, apply a base of cement-like mud, seal and then install the tile, and you get a science project of which any 5th grader would be proud. I'm excited to see that "pan" out. Sorry.

Notice below that once the old shower enclosure was fully removed, part of the floor has been exposed. This is to move the drain location slightly since we are gaining some additional depth due to increased framing (detailed pictures on that later.)

Between the two plumbing elbows shown, the drain itself will be moved a few inches to maintain the location in the center of what will be a slightly deeper area. This will be an interesting series of steps as the shower pan is "built" in place, starting with the newly positioned drain.

A number of steps are yet to come to build this pan. Based on how it's been described to me, it will be around long after the house is gone - and will never leak. This will be fun to watch!

Demo!

2008-10-29T19:34:00.000-07:00

Demolition is that point of no return. I am almost grateful that I wasn't around to witness the first pry, pull, smash, tug or chip. Taking a weapon to a perfectly good bathroom just doesn't feel right, but at the same time, it holds a certain stress-relieving appeal. But that's a Retirement Countdown blog topic.

So here goes: the toughest part of the job. The sight of debris created and construction origins exposed.

Notice the tarp taped to, and covering up the tub. Nice touch.

If you're wondering what's bothering you about these photos, I'll give you some time to consider. OK, that's long enough. The room is clean! This is one of the traits that came out when we talked to one of the references: they pick up behind themselves. This would seem to be a difficult specification to place on the contractor's bid. Either it's in their nature - or it isn't. You can easily see how this contractor stacks up.

Notice below, some of the previous "quality" workmanship that is becoming apparent as areas are exposed during demo. This poorly mudded wall behind the backsplash will cause some challenges when a flat, straight and plumb surface will be needed for the granite backsplash. But hey, if it was easy, I'd be doing it!

Also notice above the existing water shut off valves and drain. This originally had two sinks, but the previous owner had one removed so that she could have a drop-down vanity. Thank you. Anyway, we're going back to a two holer. Wait a minute - that's another part of the bathroom. I mean, back to two sinks.

Now we get to a couple of favorite photos in this post. I know what you're thinking - here comes more potty humor. Well, to a point, you're right. The toilet of course, has to come out. Underlament, mud and then tile will be going down. You pull the toilet, do the work, re-seat the toilet.

But where did it go? In the shower, of course! Think of the time saved in the mornings!

OK, it's actually now in the garage, and the rest of the shower stall has been removed. But there's one more characteristic of a conscientious, professional contractor: debris removal. As you can see, he has taken the effort to stage a utility trailer for capturing the debris. Nothing sitting around, nothing scattered around the yard, just efficient disposition.

With demo done, it's time to see if we can get it all put back together. That's the next leg of the trip.

The Final "Material Selection" Frontier

2008-10-28T19:11:00.000-07:00

To stretch an analogy about as far as I dare, a bathroom remodel is a lot like space exploration. We've never personally done it before, once we've started, we've realized it's very difficult to turn back and while the end state is only envisioned and we don't have an exact image of what it will look like when we get there, all we can do is simply go in a general direction we trust will get us there.

Changes though, are as inevitable as asteriods. OK, I'm done.

While our original selections were quite nice, a little education and experience, along with a passionate contractor who had an outstanding granite and tile supplier, showed us we had an opportunity to improve upon those positions. How we got there:

In working with the granite and tile supplier, we became quite fond of granite and travertine tile. The granite countertop actually came in a bit less expensive than the Caesar Stone and the travertine was on a par with the ceramic tile. But there was one very distinctive advantage to the tile. At 18 inches square, and much larger than the ceramic tile, the travertine reduced grout lines dramatically, not to mention the larger size is very striking. Thinking of reduced cleaning needs over the many years we expect to enjoy it was immensely appealing.

Speaking of grout, any tile selection includes it. These samples show both a standard grout compound for the floors as well as an epoxy based material for the shower. For us, it was a simple choice on two dimensions. The second from the right on the epoxy card is called Tumbleweed. It happened to be our favorite and for anyone who knows my nickname, you'll understand my fondness.

Next is the granite. Color selection is a very personal choice, so there's not much I can preach except that Tumbleweed is the best. This happens to fit very well with our tastes and the current paint color in the rest of the room. For us, it fit perfectly.

Another aspect of this project, of which I did not get many photos, is the trim pieces selected for accents. No, you are not correct in thinking I've been taking these photos with differing light intensities for dramatic effect and creative expression. The reality is that some are too bright with a flash, some are too dim without it and some are simply done on a cheap Blackberry camera. C'mon - you're not getting National Geographic.

These trim pieces will make a great contrast to the large, 18 inch tiles, placed at an angle in the shower, in a diamond pattern and add almost a touch of whimsy to a very elegant tile and granite.

With the pair of contractors evaluated, asked to adjust, told thanks but no thanks, then finally found number three, and the materials considered, selected, returned, reconsidered, chosen, and ordered, we are ready for blast off!

Material Selection: Round 1

2008-10-27T20:15:00.001-07:00

When going on a big vacation, half the fun is the planning, anticipation and envisioning that takes place ahead of the departure. A bathroom remodel project is no different.

Since we had taken a run at the two original contractors - twice - before choosing another, we had begun to make some material selections with them and their suppliers. Then of course, we did a course correction and inherited a new set of material selections and different sources with our chosen contractor. This too, turned out to be a better outcome.

The orginal countertop material we looked at was from Caesar Stone, a man-made product. It is made of bits of quartz nuggets with a small amount of pigments and polymer resins. Very attractive, practically no maintenance and of course, would last a lifetime. What we later found out, the subtle differences in reflectivity between the granite and the resin made it look like it was waterspotted when the light hit it just right. This would have been a constant source of frustration, wiping and wiping, but not having any way of eliminating the tiger's spots.

Along with the quartz was a ceramic tile and accent tile combination. No issues here. The sample board we were able to borrow confirmed everything would work with our colors and more imporantly, with the countertop material.

Then, we saw the light.

Remember, we were dealing with the trip from La La Land to the Land of Reality while considering the above samples. When we finally made the contractor selection, we were exposed to a fresh set of materials and suppliers they normally use. What a wonderfully fresh perspective.

Next up: the final selections.

Into the Land of Reality

2008-10-26T11:34:00.000-07:00

Leaving La La Land for the Land of Reality wasn't a bad trip after all. We ended up with a great contractor and a very acceptable solution - at a price that didn't have me reaching for the nitro. Here's how we got there:

We went back to the original two contractors and asked for a revised bid based on our revised sense of reality. They accommodated our sticker shock-based request cheerfully. During that time, we happened to get the name of who turned out to be our chosen contractor from a friend, who knew of this contractor's work from a friend of theirs. We thought, what the heck, throw them (two partners) into the mix for this revised plan.

At this point, I was beginning to believe the original two contractors were the ones in La La Land. Their revised bids were less, but still within a baseball's throw of "ouch and boing." The third (and now successful) contractor came at us with what we believed was reality. We checked their Contractor's Board registration, references, and specifically talked to a previous customer. After hearing just how pleased they were with their project and that they would hire them back in a minute, we were in.

Next up: project details and materials selection.

Leaving La La Land

2008-10-25T19:14:00.000-07:00

Due diligence is an important aspect of any significant business transaction. Spending thousands of dollars on a bathroom remodel surely qualifies as significant. Based on the original design, we engaged two contractors to review the project, consider our options, and present their proposals.

Be careful for what you ask - you may get it.

The first bid came in. Since I started the Bathroom Remodel blog topic posting with a quote, it's appropriate to use another. I would characterize our reaction the same way Danny Kaye in White Christmas described to Bing Crosby the cost of doing a holiday show: "How much is 'wow'? It’s right in between, uh, 'ouch' and 'boing.'"

We thought, OK... the second bid was very likely going to be the "low bidder" and would have a chance at survival (not his, ours!) It was, but only by a few hundred dollars. This is where the reality set in that is mentioned in the previous post.

Our new reality is to modify our plan, if there was any chance of being able to feel good about this project. We did, and we are. Another itinerary check: we're now leaving La La Land.

When one's heart is set on something, it's difficult to change course. In our case, "two's" hearts were set on something. But the revision was necessary. We realized that much of the cost was the significant construction and plumbing requirements that would come with framing in a shower where a tub currently sits and building a cabinet where a shower currently sits. We decided to leave everything where it was and simply improve the space to whatever extent was possible.

New (and what is proving to be a very successful plan): tear out the fiberglass shower enclosure, add the cabinet and second sink, select some nice tile and granite and call it good. Actually, I'd call it great, but you'll have to wait until I can catch up on the posts to where we are on the project.

Stay tuned.

Welcome to the Bathroom Remodel!

2008-10-25T15:49:00.000-07:00

It Has Begun!

(Actually, it is already moving along quite well.)

In this part of The Blogged Word, we'll explore our first ever master bathroom remodel. Scope decisions, contractor selection, design, materials and many, many "A or B" forks in the road. Let's, as Lewis Carroll wrote in Alice in Wonderland, "Start at the beginning... and when you come to the end, STOP!"

First, the beginning:

We live in a two bedroom, two and 1/2 half bath home in a golf course community. Nice area, nice home, but we wanted to dance up the master bathroom.

Specifically, we wanted to remove the small, shower enclosure and turn that into a large cabinet. In its place, we were going to change the tub (which is hardly ever used - note the one handle installed backward) and turn it into an oversized shower. Finally, a second sink was to be added. One was there before, but the previous owner had it removed in favor of a dropped surface vanity. Fortunately, the plumbing is all there.

We felt that since we were isolating our project to just one room and planning to get bids from multiple contractors, we would evaluate the proposed solutions, and then choose based on comfort level, reference checks and especially, overall costs.

Then, reality set in.

1038 - Balancing Relaxation

2008-10-25T12:32:00.000-07:00

Aloha,

After passing the half-way point on Kauai, I've come to realize the 11-day vacation is still a wonderful invention. Yesterday marked the day on which we would normally have returned home after the 7-day escape. The extra feeling of relaxation that was expected is indeed taking hold and I expect the overall experience to be successful in doing its "unwinding."

But with that relaxation, I'm developing a new awareness of the importance of eliminating the need for it. (Notice I'm not addressing the "want" - only the "need.")

In 1047 - Vacations With New Meaning, I've reflected on relaxation as the third pillar of cardiovascular health. (Diet and exercise being the other two.) Not that I'm interested in talking myself out of 11-day vacations, but I'm beginning to see a new perspective. If I truly get relaxation under control to the same successful extent as I've conquered diet and (somewhat) exercise, there may not be the need for 11-day recuperative escapes. (Notice again, "need" not "want!")

This is surfacing for a number of reasons. Sure, this blog and its success in causing me to reflect in ways I've never understood before. But another area is in the conversation my wife and I are having about planning the next big vacation. Now I'm a big believer that anticipation and planning are half the fun of a grand vacation, and we've done that before with much success. But this new feeling (not even a full belief yet) that is growing is that if there is success in managing that "Clock up on the Wall," are "11-dayers" still necessary - or even appropriate?

Here's my wild-ass thinking: I've suggested that getting a handle on relaxation is a good thing. OK, so how is that accomplished? There's no silver bullet, but one could consider moderating every day activities, taking more frequent, albeit shorter/smaller breaks, and smoothing out the relaxation "curve." Keep stress under control, blow off a small amount of steam frequently, and remember to slow down.

Vacations could simply be an extension of that philosophy. Like the ophthamologist says, "What's better, A or B?"

A) Save for a grand, 11-day vacation every couple of years, hope for the extra unwinding that has at least recently proven trustworthy in presenting itself, and take the gamble that there is enough "stress capacity" to get from one vacation to the next, or...

B) Stick with the 7-day medicine (I'm still holding out for 11-days, but time will tell), but take that prescription more often. To take this metaphor painfully further, consider it as a vitamin supplement, taking more frequent 2-3 day excursions, woven in to add even more rungs in the health ladder. (Sorry, I got on a roll with those stupid metaphors and just couldn't stop!)

I don't yet have a definitive answer on A) or B), but it is plenty of fodder for consideration. What's your relaxation strategy? How do you work toward balance? Are you an A) or a B)? I'd appreciate your feedback.

Mahalo

1 comment:

Molly said...: I've been reading a ton of fitness books lately and the ones that I feel are the most successful are the ones that focus on a more holistic approach to health; that is, instead of offering 20 great exercises or an incredible new diet, the really good programs include your mind as a very necessary part of the "better life" equation, something you seem to have stumbled upon on your own.

Your mental health can be nurtured in a whole lot of ways. Certainly, the act of exercising and otherwise caring for your body has a positive impact on your stress levels, but even more than that, some of the programs I've been reading about emphasize trying meditation, tai chi or yoga or other ways to focus and nurture your mind.

It might not be as fun as two weeks at a tropical locale, but creating a little oasis of calm in your life might be just what the doctor ordered!

1047 - Vacations With New Meaning

2008-10-25T12:26:00.001-07:00

In addition to relationships in the workplace, vacations have evolved over time as well. It used to be that the traditional 7-day vacation was the norm. If lucky, a trip somewhere exotic was in the cards, but unfortunately, not often enough. Over time, that has evolved into 11+ days for those exotic locals. Here's how:

For the first time two years ago, our Hawaiian vacation was an "11-dayer." Little did I know a year earlier when the plans were made that it would change the landscape. During the trip, we joked on the 7th day about that day being when we would normally be going home. Then on Day 8, we began to appreciate the "bonus time." On Day 9, the deep relaxation began to kick in and on Day 10, the mind finally caught up with the body. When going home on Day 11, it was the first time I truly felt the full relaxation that had been the goal during all the previous years of "7-dayers."

With college tuition still being part of the picture at that time, it took an entire year after the first "11-dayer" to plan the next one - a year out. But it did get planned a little over a year ago and here we are, day after tomorrow, going again. But this time, the planning for the "next" one is starting before the "current" one. Hey, after all, the anticipation, planning and mental journey far in advance is half the fun.

Sure, seeing the end of college tuition payments in the distance is one significant factor in being able to consider the next vacation right away. But there is of course another factor: 1060: Relief + Frustration + Encouragement + Relaxation = Hope. Let's focus on the Relaxation part this time.

As I've blogged before, diet and exercise are under control. It is the third pillar of relaxation that needs work. There are of course many dimensions of relaxation such as attitude, music selection, planning, problem solving approaches and of course, vacations. All the former are worth blog posts on thier own, but we're talking about vacation here. My goal is to help the mind catch up to the body more often.

In large ways, the "11-dayers" could be considered chainsaw carving. The others such as attitude, music selection, planning, problem solving approaches and many other daily choices would be considered handsaws, files, sandpaper and polish. (Not necessarily in any order.) It will take a comprehensive strategy, approached from many directions, to achieve the same level of stress reduction as I have with diet and exercise.

Does this perspective ring any bells with you? Could it help you create vacations with new meaning? If so, how are you going to go about it?

1057: "Get Less Competition From the Clock up on the Wall"

2008-10-25T12:18:00.000-07:00

This post's title is a phrase from a song from the great philospher Jimmy Buffett's song Blue Guitar on the album called Far Side of the World. Rest assured, Parrothead tendencies are a topic for an entirely different blog. However, the point is sound: like an opponent, we are constantly challenged by time - how we use it, how we save it, and how we manage it.

Today, I saw a colleague who has for the last few months, worked just one floor above me. We used to work in another building, interacting on sometimes a daily basis. Then today, we cross paths for the first time (in a very long time), in spite of being just one floor away. This has caused me to think about the changing relationships in a company over time.

Our previous environment was much more casual in nature. No, not the dress code (although some people occasionally stretched that interpretation), but the atmosphere. Many long-time colleagues working together can cause a family feeling. Together, we've gone through marriages, divorces, births, deaths, graduations and countless other life events. Events that bind a group together. Any sort of celebration was a cause for a food day and let me tell you: we knew how to eat.

But times change.

Now add to the life events shown above such as regular job changes, retirements, layoffs and a divisional relocation across the country. What binds above, breaks below. Many people moved during the relocation, many did not, and some left the company. A big part of the family was broken up. I left over a year ago on an unrelated job change, but I was affected by way of "leaving the family." Seeing my friend today brought back feelings of the old days.

In other posts, I've talked about time being an ally. Invest early, save for retirement, drink pina coladas on a tropical island. Here, it is an enemy. Time can change an environment ever so slowly that it takes seeing a long lost friend to snap you back. Only then, do you realize time has changed dramatically, one tick at a time.

Moral to this story: stay in touch with friends. Don't let the day-to-day cause you to lose your battle with the clock up on the wall.

1058: Evolutionary Exercise

2008-10-25T12:14:00.000-07:00

Yesterday in 1059, an engaging blogger, Dan From Madison, suggested I consider a bicycle as an alternative to running. He made a great point about it still being very good exercise and not as grueling as running. I especially appreciated his advise on taking the time and making the investment to work with a good bike shop to select equipment properly and get it fitted correctly. His suggestion made me pause to consider how my exercise has evolved through the years.

Yes, this is a retirement blog. Yes, it may appear we've gotten a bit off track talking so much about health, exercise and diet. But it all fits. Retirement is a delicate balance of working long enough to afford not to, but not working too long as to prevent yourself from physically enjoying it.

As a pup, it was all about hockey with a little baseball. No, I wasn't very smart: goalie and catcher respectively. But I enjoyed them both. As the years passed, baseball became softball. Junior hockey became senior hockey. After many years of being out of hockey, I actually made a brief return just to prove to myself I still had the reactions. Unfortunately, my equipment was so old, it began falling apart. Note: that was the EQUIPMENT that was falling apart - not the goalie. Tennis and golf have always hovered, but are playing larger roles these days.

Here's the consideration - then a quesiton. It's interesting that the physical activity has naturally lightened over the years. It appears that age has somewhat discreetly caused the activity intensity to change. Now, here's the question:

If you could see clearly into the future, as clearly as I'm trying to look to the past, would you attempt to maintain or even increase your activity levels as you age? Would you consciously adjust your activities (accounting of course for being safe as the body ages), or would you simply let the passage of time direct the course? My goal is clear: increase the activity level, while being heart smart.

Another migrated comment:

Dan from Madison said...

I plan on being active until I die, as a way to keep in shape - my metabolic rate is notoriously low and I like to eat - thus I must exercise.

That said, right now I enjoy biking, running and Muay Thai and training fighters. I am 39 now, and there is no way I will be able to continue this into my fifties and sixties. I suppose I could keep moving with Muay Thai with not as much contact, but fighter training - no way.

I am just going to keep going until my body tells me it is time to stop. I have asked many people the question you seem to be asking about diminishing returns and almost universally I am told by doctors, physical therapists and other professionals that my body will tell me "when" it is time to stop. Until then I am going to keep up my current pace.

When the time comes, I will just move from running to walking, biking 100 miles on hills to 50 on flats, etc.

1059: Starting a Streak at Two in a Row

2008-10-25T11:56:00.000-07:00

For you eagle-eyed readers, you'll quickly see that I am now making my second post in two days. Wow! That will sure make my blog hit the first page on Google results!

In 1123: A Dubious Milestone, I referenced five broken ribs and a punctured lung in the context of never really having any serious health problems... er... ah... except for being clumbsy. For the blog record, that was day 1857. Now that I've opened the door, I'd better dance on the threshhold:

Playing tennis
On a dead run
Going for a backhand
Ran too far; ran too hard
Went down on the hardsurface

Yes, five ribs and a hole in my lung. It's worse than that: I lost the point AND had to forfeit the match since my buddies took me to the hospital. The best line came from the trauma center doctor when he saw me shuffling around the nurses station on day two. "Tennis, huh? I play tennis. I don't know if I want to play you, or get the hell out of your way..." It hurt to laugh.

The purpose of sharing less-than-flattering family photos is the "flashback" sort of perspectives this blog project is causing. No, not those kinds of flashbacks, it is causing me to remember events at different times and in different ways. Then, deciding just how to share those thoughts. Over two years ago, I was in the best shape in 20 years - then in an instant - practically immobile for nearly two months. And in that instant, I realized that I wasn't so bulletproof after all. Very sobering.

So here I am again, looking at a strategy with a very different perspective: I'm fortunate that I don't have to rehabilitate per se, but the challenge seems even greater. Now, it's not as much suppressing a sneeze for 6 weeks while bones heal, as it is calculating how hard to press without pressing the heart too much. Yesterday's post was about the cardiologist taking charge and defining the sandbox in which I can play: tennis, golf, powerwalking (no running.) It is now my turn to take charge and devise a way to maximize my training effects while minimizing any additional x-rays.

Creative, healthy, low impact training: What's your strategies?

Again, below are three comments that did not carry over to The Blogged Word:

3 comments:

Dan from Madison said...

Heh, that X-ray is ugly.

I can't really relate to your exercise needs because I am only 39 and am pushing my body at this moment to do insane things. But I do a lot of long distance cycling.

How about buying a bike? Cycling is very low impact (as long as you are on streets and paths), and is fun and relaxing. You don't have to do centuries on big hills like me, even 10 miles can be pleasant.

One recommendation though - if you decide to pick it up, do it right - go to a GOOD bike shop and spend the extra $$ and get fitted for your bike. If you ever get the fever and want to go extra distances this will minimize any aches and pains.

Weed said...

Dan, thanks for the advice. Since running is out, I've actually thought about a bike as a fun replacement - and a lot easier on this 52 year old body.

Keep up the exercise. At 39, you're far ahead of me in that I didn't start paying close attention until much later. Hindsight is 2020.

The other part that you can do for yourself is to get your cholesterol checked. I went years without paying attention, now I'm paying a bit of a price.

Thanks for the encouragement. If I can get my wife interested, maybe that bike will turn out to be "for two."

Regards,

Dave

1060: Relief + Frustration + Encouragement + Relaxation = Hope

2008-10-25T11:44:00.000-07:00

These are an unusual grouping of feelings, but when one visits their cardiologist, this could be considered only the tip of the emotional iceberg. Fortunately, the follow-up was all positive - at least to the extent possible. Except for constant running, all other activity requests were granted - tennis, walking, golf. The long, slow burn of walking is the best. I liked the doctor's analogy: one might drive a brand new Ferrari hard with power slides around turns on the track and rapid acceleration, but a 52 year old model might not be treated quite the same way. I appreciated being connected to a Ferrari.

Relief. With the dramatic change of eating and exercise habits over the last few years, nothing really has to change in that regard. Yes, a relief. With a very positive prognosis, things are almost all back to normal. Time horizons are back in place and opinions of the future are back where they were. With only a slight modification which includes some meds.

Frustration. There's one aspect of the follow-up visit that did cause some frustration. The cardiologist made a comment that put me in a place from which I can't exit: "I didn't pick my parents well." This has nothing to do with my love of my parents, but everything to do with heredity. There are simply a couple of small blood vessels that are not fully functioning. Not much can be done in that regard. Fortunately, the areas of the heart serviced by those arteries don't require a lot of blood anyway. The meds are the "fix."

Encouragement. Back to the lack of habit-changing requirements: the path I'm currently traveling is sound. Keep up the good eating habits (one burger a month allowed!) and keep up the exercise regimen. This was a "keep doin' what you're doin' " moment. The only piece of the trilogy that I'm lacking is relaxation.

The cardiologist cited a book he recommends to patients written by Dr. Dean Ornish called "Reversing Heart Disease. The three elements of his strategy are diet, exercise and relaxation. I'm currently batting two for three. But relaxation will be the new blip on my health radar.

This all adds up to Hope. After 1123, I immediately began questioning everything about my current being. Schedules, commitments, attitudes, activities - they were all scrutinized. Fortunately, a more objective review over some time helped me to realize that not much has to change. Everything (except running!) is still part of the picture and that is a relief. Based on the report, my hope is that a very large percentage of my life will continue unaffected.

One additional note: I'm considering the merits of a blog topic that discusses my migration from cholesterol levels near 230 and lowering it on my own in eight months to 149. I'd appreciate your thoughts on the merits of this discussion and how it could be structured. If I can make that sort of impact on my own, others may benefit from the journey. Please weigh in on the issue.

The Countdown continues. Now, with an ever-evolving perspective not known before. Next area of exploration and eventual focus: relaxation.

1123 - A Dubious Milestone

2008-10-25T11:40:00.001-07:00

You've heard this before: "Just when you start to see the light at the end of the tunnel, you realize it's an oncoming train." In this case, the train was a heart attack. Fortunately, it was considered mild, but it was cause for reassessing my reality, if not my mortality. (Editorial note: if this was "mild", I really don't want to experience "severe!")

In a previous post, I mentioned the "stars aligning" when I was fortunate enough to land my current position. That was true in many areas pre-1123. But now, there are a new set of rules by which to live. No, I don't mean cutting out red meat, getting more exercise, reducing cholesterol - those have been under control for years. (Hey, as my only source of red meat, even my cardiologist approves my "one burger a month" regimen.) What I mean is the degree to which attention is paid to my health - a significantly raised sense of awareness.

For years, I thought I was doing well at exercising and what I thought was relatively healthy eating and weight control. Even while I was getting cholesterol under control in recent years (without medication, thank you!), I was falsely thinking that I was a pretty healthy guy. Never any serious health problems (as long as you discount the 5 broken ribs and a punctured lung since that was due to clumsiness, not heredity.) What 1123 made me realize is how health habits are like compound interest: if one starts early, the effort is minimal for excellent success. If one starts later, it takes a much more drastic effort to come anywhere close to matching the success.

Honestly, I have a point: the lenses through which I view my health have changed. Since cholesterol is now not much of a challenge, I am now focusing on sodium content. Have you read a label lately? I am of course being careful about getting back to all my sports (running, tennis, golf) by simply walking harder and longer each day, in a calculated way - 1123 is history and I want to keep it that way. Weight is being reduced further. (Beyond the additional health benefits, let's be realistic: most of us still look better with our clothes ON, don't we?)

The only variable in this scenario is family history. I had a college professor that put it this way: "Healthy habits are one thing, but a large factor that must be considered is whether or not you picked your parents well." Heredity isn't the reason for abandoning good habits - in fact, it should be the motivation to adopt the healthiest of habits.

All of us have room to improve. It's all about choices. When our kids were young, we used to tell them that the types of choices they made in life determined how many choices, or options, they would have in the future. Make a good choice and it helped to ensure future options or choices to make. Make a bad choice and the future may not hold has many options or avenues to pursue. Sort of like an ATM for choices.

The next time you sit down at a restaurant, make some simple choices: a fajita salad instead of a deep fried chimichanga; eat 4 or 5 chips with salsa then down the rest of your water; instead of a milkshake, have a fruit smoothie; shop in different aisles at the grocery store (meaning the healthy section) - you will be amazed at the options. My favorite guilty pleasure: corn dogs. Well, I haven't had a traditional C dog in years, but Morningstar makes a veggie corn dog that has ZERO cholesterol and only moderate fat content. I place it on the BBQ grill until it's perfectly crispy and slightly browned, then lather it up with old fashioned French's Mustard - it's just like being at the carnival.

It's all about choices. Good choices allow you to enjoy the experience without sacrificing your health. The more of these kinds of good choices you make, the more you will get to make in the future. The fewer good choices made - well... the alternative is the oncoming train.

If you don't know your cholesterol number, get it checked. If you know it, lower it. Walk around the block. Ride a bike. Hug your family members. Tell your friends.

Stay off the train.

1588

2008-10-24T21:34:00.001-07:00

Time is relative - especially here. 1588 isn't today's true number, but it was a milestone. In catching up to the current day through creative and witty blog postings, this event bears noting. First, a perspective:

It is becoming more unusual for a person to spend their entire career at one company as I have. The U.S. Department of Labor estimates that today's students will have 10-14 jobs - by age 38. While I have had many positions at one company, it has been - one company. Based on the increasingly mobile society in which we live, I would argue that many of those 10-14 jobs will be with multiple employers.

Employees make livings for themselves ranging from what's considered "good" to being challenged with every household expense. Some don't like their jobs at all while some are completely satisfied. There are many in the middle who simply work because they have to, and accidentally derive some positive experiences along the way.

In one's career, there can be positions held that fulfill, challenge, enrich, allow growth, and even provide enjoyment. But it is rare that they all happen at the same time. Then add the element of fun, and it truly becomes a once-in-a-lifetime experience. Enter 1588.

This Retirement Countdown blog concept originated from the notion that as soon as I was eligible for retirement (age 55 and 30 years of service), I would jump at the opportunity to do something new. When I'm 55, I'll have 32+ years of service and I thought it might be time for a different environment. Then, 1588 happened.

An accidental series of events caused me to learn about my current position. Once I pursued it, I was fortunate to land it. Almost because it was "meant to be." Now I'm not usually a cosmic person, but the stars did align. Not only am I experiencing all the positive aspects mentioned earlier (and many more!), I am actually having fun. Fun. Something people don't normally mention when blogging about their jobs.

Over this past year, my perspective has now changed. Instead of counting down the days to August 1, 2011 for an exit at a high rate of speed, I'm now much less motivated to count. Make no mistake, I'm still counting - but not with the same fervor. I may continue to work because I want to - not just because I have to. It may boil down to just how long this position remains "fun."

If you were to land your dream job just as retirement was coming into focus, how would it change your countdown drive?

Note: since this post moved from The Retirement Countdown, the connected comments did not come along. Below is a post from a good friend, Molly. You can read her blog at mollyleecards.blogspot.com:

I have fun, a lot of fun, at my current position as well, however, given the choice, if I were able to retire tomorrow, I would very likely take it. This is not so much a reflection of how I view my job (which I do enjoy), but what is going on outside of my job. With two young children growing up while I work full-time, I often get pangs that I'm missing out on important milestones. I would love to be more active in their classrooms and daily lives.

While it is possible that I do have what is close to a dream job right now, who is to say that a dream pasttime or side business might not be there if I only had the time to pursue it?

If/when I retire, though, I will need some kind of side venture going, some freelance, volunteer or other parttime work, to anchor my life and keep me from being too bored.

Thanks for asking!

Tuition Doesn't Have to be Imposing

2008-10-24T21:31:00.001-07:00

I know, the title isn't a countdown number. I assure you, as I catch up on some thoughts since 2185 occured to me, I will standardize on the posts. There may be the occasional topic that needs a non-numeric title, but I'll try to stay true to the countdown.

Yes, I know college tuition is imposing for many families. It was for us, too. But start early, fund it continuously, and you'll be in better shape than if you simply hope for scholarships. We instilled an incentive in our children that said, "Apply for, earn, and use a scholarship and receive a 10% commission from Mom and me. Think about the value of tuition these days and 10% becomes excellent spending scratch. This provided a bit of an incentive that isn't normally there when writing essays, filling out applications and running all the trap lines for scholarships.

Believe me, I would rather pay 10 cents on the dollar to my child than to pay 100 cents on the dollar to a school for tuition. Scholarships didn't carry the entire burden, but the 10% commission helped significantly.

Why do I tell you that story? It occured to my wife an me recently that we just achieved full funding for our second child's tuition. Our first one threw us a bone and got done in three years. Yes, it took a study abroad one summer and some high school credits that qualified, and some internships and some additional summer classes. But that was our son's decision and we happily supported it.

Now, we have just two years left to get our daughter graduated. Within about $2.98, we are virtually fully funded for the next two years. It has provided us with a new perspective: the hardest part is done. Now, what do we do next? What would you do?

2185 Days to Retirement

2008-10-24T21:17:00.001-07:00

2185. What an interesting number. About 182 months. Just under 6 years. That was over 3 years ago and during that time, I've been tracking the countdown somewhat regularly. After a while, it caused me to begin a level of planning for the future I had never experienced. Not financial planning per se, although that has been a part of it - more like event planning.

Key birthdays, graduations, tuition due dates, vacation dreams - all the major milestones that have previously come and gone without much fanfare. After seeing 2185, it occured to me that with some foresight and "what if" thinking, there may be considerable opportunities to ehnance those life experiences - rather than see them come and go.

Since a significant amount of time has passed since 2185 slapped me in the face, I won't try to recap all that has taken place in my head since then. Although some of that may surface as we move forward, I'm mostly planning to capture those moments in time as new perspectives present themselves, based on the countdown.

2185, 2184, 2183...